Have you ever had a workplace so toxic, that you have to process everything that happens with your coworkers, excoriating the wrong-doers until you feel better?
Think about your old or current workplace.
How your emotions have gone from soaring hope to plunging despair in an instant.
How you kept asking yourself, why why am I going to this job that I hate?
Why can’t I find a new job that’s better?
Or even, “Why am I looking for a new job at all? All jobs are the same!”
You wonder what just happened. Perhaps you start to cry. Perhaps you yell back. Perhaps you start to search for another job. How can you prevent verbal attacks? How can you stop the verbal attacker in their tracks? How can you make them understand that they are not going to get the rise out of you that they want?
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Jamel Debbouze in Amelie
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Because you’ve got so much support, you’re expected to perform miracles, even with a bad database, or a down economy. Or perhaps you feel pigeonholed into your role, with no chance to move up, or do new things.
How do you deal?
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“RICHARD WILKINSON: (With a large wage gap) almost everything gets worse: homicide rates, how kids get on at school, math and literacy scores, teenage birth rates, obesity. Mental illness is worse, how much people feel they can trust others, the size of prison populations, what proportion of the population are locked up, measures of social cohesion, how much people are involved in community life. Everything seems to get worse.
BILL MOYERS: Levels of trust among people are affected by the distribution of income?
RICHARD WILKINSON: I think it’s something that people have had an intuition about for centuries. They have often regarded inequality as divisive and socially corrosive. And our data shows that this intuition is much truer than any of us ever realized. We choose our friends from amongst our equals. People don’t feel so at ease with people who are much better off.
BILL MOYERS: Inequality makes strangers of us?
KATE PICKETT: That’s right. At one point, we wanted to call our book, “Inequality: The Enemy Between Us” because in a more unequal society, the social distances get stretched out between us. As the hierarchy gets steeper, social distances are greater, and it’s harder to trust.