You wonder what just happened. Perhaps you start to cry. Perhaps you yell back. Perhaps you start to search for another job. How can you prevent verbal attacks? How can you stop the verbal attacker in their tracks? How can you make them understand that they are not going to get the rise out of you that they want?
Hi! Thanks for reading this series on how to manage and motivate others by discovering their strengths and helping them find tasks that they can excel in! These descriptions are taken from the book, “Now, Discover your Strengths” by Marcus Buckingham and Donald Clifton, and I am indebted to them for their years of research… [Keep Reading]
How can you discover your strengths? How do you manage people? Have you taken the Gallup assessment, which was given to over 2 million people, and provided insights on 34 types you might have to manage at work? This can be an invaluable tool as you help people discover their strengths, and focus on these… [Keep Reading]
Have you ever sat there, BORED OUT OF YOUR SKULL at yet another presenter who was just READING OFF THE POWERPOINT SLIDES and wondering where all of the smart, crazy, funny speakers were? Seriously. We’re colorful nonprofit professionals, not drab grey suited dorks. We need people to engage us.
So recently I was talking with a friend of mine about her new nonprofit job. “How’s it going?” I asked. “Oh I’m looking for new jobs every day!” she said. She’s never worked in nonprofits before. “What’s the deal?” I asked. “I went to sit with donors at this event, and my boss asked me… [Keep Reading]
If you hate your job, here are three reasons why you might hate it, and what to do about it. Do you feel anonymous? If you feel like your manager doesn’t really care who you are as a human being, or care about your life, aspirations, or interests, then this could be one reason you… [Keep Reading]
Jamel Debbouze in Amelie
When I saw Amelie in 2001, I loved Jamel Debbouze’s character, Lucien. He overcame the barriers presented to him, and ended up running the fruit and vegetable stall where he had previously been abused and oppressed by the owner for being disabled and for being of a different race. It nearly made me cry, when he was being slapped by the manager. My emotional reaction was a hint that I needed to do something.
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So are you: 0. Thinking that your nonprofit is looking out for you, and will reward all of your hard work with more money or respect or job titles? Think again. 1. Thinking fundraising is begging? It’s not. It’s relationship building. 2. Thinking that you should not get paid a living wage, nor should your… [Keep Reading]
“To have a name is to be,” said Benoit Mandelbrot, the inventor of fractals. As “sexism” gained a foothold, men’s desire to avoid being labeled “sexist” caused them to modify their treatment of women. Likewise, the desire of perpetrators to avoid being labeled rankist will make them think twice about insulting the dignity of subordinates.
How can you show your respect and regard for someone? You can deeply listen to them. Often I think that a lot of what holds us back as a culture is that we are never taught to deeply listen to another person. Start in your home and at your nonprofit today, and model good listening… [Keep Reading]
Because you’ve got so much support, you’re expected to perform miracles, even with a bad database, or a down economy. Or perhaps you feel pigeonholed into your role, with no chance to move up, or do new things.
How do you deal?
Have you ever felt upset that you have to go to all of these charity events, all of these chamber of commerce meetings and corporate meetings where you are frayed at the cuffs and frazzled, and all around you, people are sleek and well dressed? Have people ever looked you up and down and you… [Keep Reading]