So thought-terminating clichés, what are they? Coined in a book called “Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism,” a book written in 1956 about brainwashing in China, A thought-terminating cliché is a commonly used phrase, sometimes passing as folk wisdom, used to quell cognitive dissonance. Though the phrase in and of itself may be valid… [Keep Reading]
In 2001, a friend of mine came out to me. He had never told anyone he was gay. He was 20. He didn’t know where any resources were, despite living near Provincetown and Boston his whole life. Since I didn’t know a lot about various LGBTQ organizations, I pointed him to the now sadly defunct Planet Out (which now redirects to Gay.com), where I thought he might be able to find more people in the community. Then we went to Jacques Cabaret, a piano bar, but we couldn’t get in because I forgot my ID.
A reader emailed me recently and asked me to please please blog about something that she sees a lot, namely, people not understanding why we have all of these LGBTQ organizations, and why they are different, why we need them.
If your boss does not understand fundraising, give them a 2 minute explanation of how fundraising works. Show them that they’ll get the best bang for their buck from major gifts, and individuals, and the least from foundations, corporations, and events. There are graphs from Giving USA and Philanthropy Reports that go into detail about… [Keep Reading]
This last week, Katya Anderson wrote about the numbing of our compassion when we have heard lots of statistics and lots of stories. I was just reading about this trend in “Half the Sky” and it frankly shocked me, that people could care less and less about greater quantities of people, the more stories that… [Keep Reading]
First off, I love that you’re helping women get wheels. When I worked in a domestic violence shelter, this is something that would hamper women in getting the services that they needed, whether baby-sitting, counseling, welfare, etc. A car can mean the difference between a job and no job, and between a woman having to return to an abuser or not. Thank you for recognizing this.
Tell them how you celebrate successes in your organization.
Tell them how you resolve conflict.
Tell them how you help people keep learning, and talk about advancement opportunities in your organization.
Tell them how you supplement their salary with generous time off, flex-time, work-from-home options, full health benefits, and bonuses if they go over goal with an event, grant, or appeal.
Remember these 10 tips from Arianna Huffington’s book, On Becoming Fearless: 1. Be true to yourself. Constantly looking over your shoulder for approval means you’ll never get it. What’s more, you’ll greatly increase your chances of walking into a wall or falling into a ditch-not to mention losing yourself in the process. 2. Turn down… [Keep Reading]
Marin Alsop, Music Director for Baltimore Symphony Orchestra “If everybody just loves you, you’re probably not doing a very good job.”
Where do you think the phrase “man up” comes from, and why do you think it references getting things done? If I were you, I would question this phrase before adding it to my lexicon. Did you know that the world over, women do most of the work, and get paid the least? It’s true!… [Keep Reading]
I’m not Catholic or anything, but Dorothy Day was pretty damn special. Ms. Day was an American journalist, social activist and devout Catholic convert; she advocated the Catholic economic theory of Distributism. She also described herself as a Christian anarchist. In the 1930s, Day worked closely with fellow activist Peter Maurin to establish the Catholic… [Keep Reading]
Every time someone tells you something/accuses you of being something, instead of just passively accepting that you must be that thing, why not be like Wikipedia and say, “Citation Needed”?
Did you see that New York Times article called “Frazzled Moms Push Back Against Volunteering”? The New York Times may ALSO have some style pieces about women that are not based in reality. Perhaps “small but growing” is code for “three people I found on the corner two hours before deadline.” ORLY. Have YOUR volunteers… [Keep Reading]